How to stop giving a f*ck & interview with Author Sarah Knight

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With one holiday closing and another one approaching I thought it would be the perfect time to let you all in on a little secret { WE NEED TO STOP GIVING A F*CK!}, PRONTO. Who went home for Thanksgiving this year? And how many people asked you "So what are you doing?" "Hows life?" "When are you getting married?" "How many kids are you going to have?" "Are you sure you want to be (insert)?". Basically how many people put their unwanted opinions or judgement on you making you feel annoyed, upset, or just down right pissed?

We all know that Grandma June might not mean to make Thanksgiving an absolute snooze fest for you but when she asks you three times "when are you going to change your hair back to a normal color?" or imparts her opinion about your love life {or lack there of} (Making all of these things up haha) it gets quite annoying. But we still keep going to Grandmas for Thanksgiving because that's what {nice} grandchildren do...Or our job even though we hate our boss and can't stand stepping foot in the office we stay because we "need to get paid and don't have the option to leave" {not true}.

Sarah-Knight-Interview

Basically we "tough it out" doing things we fucking hate....for no reason at all other than to please someone else or our nerves. Well I am here to introduce you to something called the "Not Sorry" method and someone called Sarah Knight who drastically changed my perspective on life.

Sarah Knight is the Author of "The Life-changing Magic of not giving a F*ck" a what I would call, self-help book that teaches you how to "stop spending time you don't have with people you don't like doing things you don't want to do."

I found Sarah's book last winter when I was in a bit of a tough spot. I didn't get into grad school, had no idea what I wanted to do with my professional life and was so incredibly sick of working 3-4 side jobs {that I hated} to pay for my college/ expenses. Oh and also was feeling the want to jump into blogging but was so nervous about others opinions. {Basically I was trudging through life doing so much shit that I hated because I felt like I "had to" or "had no other option"}. Well thank you Sarah Knight for coming to the rescue and making me realize who the hell cares what anyone thinks, I need to be doing something i'm passionate about, and for making me hysterically laugh listening to your audio book.

Ok so now without further ado I give you Sarah Knight {and her genius ways}.

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BL: Hi Sarah! Please introduce yourself to Blissfully Lively readers.

SK: I’m a former New York City book editor and current freelance writer/expat living in the Dominican Republic. My first book, The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fuck, was published last year and became an international bestseller. My new book, Get Your Shit Together, comes out on December 27, 2016.

BL: I absolutely adore your book “The Life changing Magic of not Giving a F*ck” It’s hysterical, makes you seriously ponder life, and give yourself a swift kick in the ass to better your life. What was the inspiration that sparked you to write this book?

SK: Thank you! The biggest inspiration came after quitting my corporate job to work for myself, and realizing how many “fucks” I’d been giving to a lifestyle that wasn’t making me happy. In the book, I define your “fucks” as your time, energy, and/or money, and show you how to spend them on things that bring you joy, by eliminating things (or people) that “annoy.” I call it managing your Fuck Budget.

BL: Can you explain a little more in depth about the 2 step Not Sorry method you talk about in the book?

SK: It’s very easy, just identifying what you don’t give a fuck (i.e. “care) about, and then taking step 2: stop giving those fucks. I instruct readers on how to do this using a combination of honesty and politeness so you don’t hurt anybody’s feelings. (As I say in the book: “Don’t be an asshole.”) If you do it that way, you’ll have nothing to apologize or feel guilty for, hence the name of the method.

BL:  I know putting yourself out there can be a bit scary or at least that’s how I felt when releasing this blog, were you ever nervous for the feedback before you released the book? And if so how did you overcome that?

SK: Yes and no. Part of me was nervous because I’d worked in publishing for fifteen years as an editor so I’m used to being nervous about how a book performs—it’s just never had my name on it before. But for the same reasons I wasn’t that nervous, because I knew I had done my best and the “success” of a book depends on such a variety of factors that I couldn’t judge myself based on sales or reviews as much as on my own satisfaction with the product. (And I had no problem being the writer who says “fuck” 732 times in on book.)

BL: After people read your book what is one big takeaway you want them to have? Well other than “not giving a fuck” :)

SK: I just want them to laugh, and to feel liberated.

BL: Do you have any advice for people just starting to “not give a fuck”? I know it can be difficult with family/ friends opinions.

SK: My best advice is to just try it, a little bit at a time. I think most people are surprised by how easy it really is to stop giving so many unnecessary fucks and how much better they feel after, which makes it that much easier to keep going!

BL: Is there one person you look up to in the self-help/ motivation field?

SK: I think Jen Sincero (You Are a Badass, etc.) has done a great job motivating and empowering readers while not taking herself too seriously.

BL: Do you have any mantras or daily positivity you repeat to keep yourself motivated/ inspired?

SK: I always tell myself to take things one small, manageable chunk at a time…which happens to be the biggest mantra/takeaway in my new book, called Get Your Shit Together: How to Stop Worrying About What You Should Do So You Can Finish What You Need to Do and Start Doing What You Want to Do.

I mean woah...How simple and realistic does she boil life down to be? It's awesome. I think a lot of the time we get caught up in opinions or the way others will judge us when in all reality we need to stop thinking about others and begin doing what really makes us happy. If you hate your job QUIT! I know that sounds much easier said then done, but it isn't. Put the necessary checks and balances in place and QUIT. Enough with the excuses, we only have one life why spend it being miserable at a job that you hate making yourself miserable.

Find what really drives you and what you are passionate about and if that means you need to sacrifice getting a mani/pedi every week because you aren't making as much money any more as a waiter or nanny or whatever the hell until you can figure out what you want to do/be then SO BE IT!

Priorities and Perspective!

I hope you all enjoyed this interview and if you want to learn more find Sarah @MCSnugz on Instagram & Twitter and purchase her book by clicking the picture below. {It will take you to Amazon for purchase!}

Ps. Is there anything you guys are having trouble not giving a f*ck about? So interested to hear, help & listen!

Xo,

Lauren

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